XO Women | Roxy Olivas

The main purpose for my relaunch of XO is to share stories of inspiring women – a series I’m entitling XO Women. I wanted to start showcasing awesome women I’ve come across, but a good friend said to me, “How can you share other women’s stories if you can’t share your own?” — talk about conviction! I’m constantly falling into this negative mindset that my story isn’t good enough or that I’m nothing special, but those are all lies. Every story matters. Your story matters. Mine should, too. So here we go, with  the first of many XO Women posts.



I first fell in love with technology playing Super Mario Bros. on a hand me down Super Nintendo Entertainment System. Our relationship blossomed when I taught myself how to build websites with basic HTML – I guess you could say that’s when things started getting serious. I’ve pounded my head on the wall trying to understand it; I’ve felt ecstatic when I finally do. We have laughed, we have cried, we have almost broken up, but through it all, it’s pretty clear – we were meant to be together.


Today, I am an experienced IT professional currently working in the Healthcare industry as a Project Manager. I’ve dabbled in different aspects of technology from programming, working at an IT Help Desk, as a business analyst, a software tester, and a project manager. My passion lies in being able to understand the technical details about a system and how it serves the greater good.



Baby Roxy

Born and raised in Honolulu, Hawai’i to Filipino immigrant parents, I was a shy, awkward little girl growing up. I preferred staying in playing Nintendo or messing around with the computer over playing sports or being outdoors. I was painfully shy and felt like an ugly duckling that didn’t really belong. I was lucky to have parents who always encouraged and supported me, but I never felt like I had strong women influencers in my life. I harbored a lot of insecurities and I didn’t really feel comfortable with myself until I was halfway through college.


I’d say I have a unique way of looking at the world – I grew up in the diverse melting pot of Honolulu, have all the characteristics of an astrological Pisces, and can have extreme empathy towards people. I am definitely a Briggs Myers INFP. I love understanding how and why people see the world the way they do, but this empathy can sometimes be my downfall. I love structure, stability and the corporate world, but I’m generally a Type-B go with the flow kind of person. I love vacations and travel – but I need a home base to be anchored to. I take a lot of pride in my career, mostly because I worked hard to get where I am. I don’t believe in entitlement, I believe in working hard and doing what you have to do to take care of business – especially when things don’t go according to plan. Above everything else, I think that everything happens as it should, according to God’s plan.



I’ve known that I wanted to be in tech since I was in middle school. Like I said earlier, Super Mario Brothers really is the reason I wanted to be an engineer. At one point I wanted to be a video game tester, but I thought it would take all the fun out of gaming. As a little kid I briefly wanted to be a teacher, but that got shot down. Even though I always wanted to be in tech, I really didn’t figure out that I wanted to be a Project Manager until I got into the workforce.



Right now, I can honestly say I’m content in where I am in my career. I didn’t think I’d get my ‘dream job’ as quickly as I did, but my new pipe dream is to one day be a C-level executive. I wouldn’t be crushed if I never make it, but if you’re going to dream, dream big, right? 😉



My College Graduation (2012)



When I was growing up, my parents used to tell me that they could never give me anything and my only way out was an education. They talked a lot about how hard it was for them growing up in the Philippines and how they wanted a better life for me and my sister. It definitely had a huge influence on my life. They did everything they could to put me through college and it’s something that I’ll always be grateful for. My senior year of college, I went through some really tough, emotional personal experiences that were so hard for me that I almost flunked out of engineering school. I really just wanted to give up and quit. But literally, by the grace of God, I graduated and started a great career. Looking back, I think I would have never made it without the few people who believed in me and told me I could do it.


Coke bottle glasses Roxy!




The next generation of young women. I’ve learned a lot about myself the past few years, but I think what surprises me most is that I’m passionate about other women doing well. I wished that there were more examples of smart, strong, beautiful women for me, but luckily I found a few inspiring and supportive friends in college. I volunteered for a school year with middle school girls at my old church in Arizona and I always saw a little piece of awkward, Coke bottle glasses Roxy in each one of them. I wanted them so much to know how loved and worthy they are. Especially with all the negative stories about women’s experiences in tech, the world needs more positive stories and I don’t think it’s an accident that I am in the position that I’m in.



“Never take a job that you know how to do – take something you can learn and grow in.”



Absolutely, yes. A lot of times I take a mental step back and am just in awe of where I am and how far I’ve come – I never thought a little island girl from Hawai’i would end up living the dream 3500+ miles away from home. Believe me, I am so far from perfect, but if 16 year old Roxy knew where she’d end up, she might not have been so insecure.

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  • Reply hhabeck August 25, 2017 at 11:15 am

    Omg I LOVED Super Mario Bros too, haha! Sounds like you are a pretty amazing and accomplished lady! Glad you shared your story — it is definitely worth sharing! 🙂 xx


  • Reply Lauren Sheriff August 26, 2017 at 11:10 am

    That quote at the end has so much truth! Thanks for sharing!!

  • Reply the journey of Julie August 28, 2017 at 8:04 pm

    Your story sounds great! I’m glad that those experience help shape who you are now.

  • Reply jenny at dapperhouse (@dapperhouse) August 28, 2017 at 8:31 pm

    You are so beautiful, and talented and smart. You are definitely an inspiration! This is going to be a great series.

  • Reply Adriana Martin August 29, 2017 at 12:41 am

    Thanks for sharing yoru story, it is important to recognize form where we come from and to be proud of our culture and heritage. Seems you have done a good job so far congrats Roxy!

  • Reply Lifestyle Blog&Clubp August 29, 2017 at 6:57 am

    Nice interview to yourself, I like the idea. Seems like you accomplished your dream and work in the tech industry. That is not quite common career for girls, indeed. 🙂

  • Reply sj August 29, 2017 at 8:34 am

    I’m glad that those experience help shape who you are now.Thanks for sharing your story. That is not quite common career for girls, indeed.

  • Reply thewanderingcore August 29, 2017 at 9:37 am

    So glad that I came across your wonderful story. I am also in tech, but sort of core tech and dream of moving in management and literally up the ladder. As you said If you gotta dream, dream big..completely agree with this. Thanks for sharing!!

  • Reply loisaltermark August 29, 2017 at 9:47 am

    Great getting to know more about you. I’m looking forward to following your blog. I love reading about inspiring, empowering women!

  • Reply Gayathri Lakshminarayanan August 29, 2017 at 2:44 pm

    I love reading about women and the paths they have had to cross to reach where they are. So I am looking forward to reading your series, and your story seems to be a great start for better things to come.

    Gayathri @ Musings Over Nothing

  • Reply Miss Melissa (@Melissamchee) August 29, 2017 at 3:41 pm

    LOVE – thank you…. I needed to hear this. “Never take a job that you know how to do – take something you can learn and grow in.”

  • Reply Deborah August 29, 2017 at 5:34 pm

    Awesome! I think we all need to remind ourselves that we are works in progress and that we are doing amazing things. It’s also important to be inspired and empowered by others to achieve our dreams. Thanks for the inspiration today!

  • Reply Carol Cassara August 30, 2017 at 9:41 am

    You’re such an inspiration and I hope that the young women would read this and be motivated to do better and to keep striving for what they want in life. I’m glad you’re happy with where you are! Well deserved!

  • Reply Krystal // The Krystal Diaries August 30, 2017 at 12:46 pm

    First off, you go girl! You are so accomplished and talented. I like this idea of sharing a bio/interview about yourself. It’s a wonderful way to get to know a blogger better. PS I’m in the healthcare industry too!

  • Reply Olivia Stacey August 30, 2017 at 2:36 pm

    Yes girl! Loved reading how you became involved in your current career and your steps to success. Go get ’em!

  • Reply Christine August 30, 2017 at 8:05 pm

    You have a great story and I am so glad you shared it! I am a RN and we would be so lost without our IT partners. Your role is so important with meaningful use regulations. Wish you all the best!

  • Reply Janella Panchamsingh August 31, 2017 at 10:52 am

    You are a beautiful woman with alot to offer the world keep getting out there showing other women how powerful they are

  • Reply Jessica Hughes August 31, 2017 at 2:56 pm

    You have a wonderful story and I think your premise of sharing stories of inspiring women is fantastic! We need more of this and we need more women lifting each other up. Love it!

  • Reply nefeli August 31, 2017 at 3:45 pm

    Nice story, I like the idea. Leaving your dreams and succeed Keep the lovely dream

  • Reply Tina Marie (@troberge) August 31, 2017 at 5:33 pm

    You go girl! I love your story! I think a lot of us started with Mario and went from there. Although, I’m not that computer minded I do know my way away using one. 🙂 I look at life like I look at the ingredients in my cupboard – a hodge podge of things that can turn into something dazzling in just a few minutes. Add a lot of love and you’ve got yourself an amazing story of life and love.

  • Reply Cassie Liz August 31, 2017 at 6:38 pm

    What a lovely read – Roxy sure has lead an interesting life! I loved the quote about the job too – so true!

  • Reply supermillennial August 31, 2017 at 10:01 pm

    Wow really good post! I love the advice “never take a job you know how to do!”

  • Reply thenafranssen August 31, 2017 at 11:46 pm

    What a great blog, and such an inspiring post! Thank you for sharing, I love it!

  • Reply Rochelle September 1, 2017 at 12:40 am

    You are so beautiful! (And cute as a baba) and empowering. The world needs more women like you. Xx

  • Reply Kendel | Little Misadventures September 1, 2017 at 12:55 am

    I wanted to be a video game tester too! You know, because I was obsessed with The Sims haha. Still am to this day.

  • Reply Jill Fickling-Conyers September 1, 2017 at 4:55 am

    It’s fun to get to know the blogger behind the blog a little more. Find the motivation and always strive for what you want in life.

  • Reply adventures September 1, 2017 at 8:32 am

    This is such a cute story! I love the way you describe your love affair with a Super Nintendo. I guess many of us fell in love that way but never thought to use those words to express it.

  • Reply emotteygmailcom September 1, 2017 at 11:04 pm

    This is a beautiful story! Thank you for being so vulnerable. We grew up in different places but we have a lot in common.

  • Reply Jojo Hua September 2, 2017 at 7:32 pm

    Awww this was a really sweet post. I can’t believe you’re from Hawaii! You’re so lucky. I’d love to visit there someday 🙂

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